Dispassion in the Spiritual Life

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Here’s a story from a Desert Father that helps us to understand Dispassion:

There was an elder living in the desert. One day, a young man came to visit him and asked, “Abba, what can I do to be saved?”

The old man thought for a moment, and then said, “Go to the cemetery and curse the gravestones.” The young man was puzzled, but he obeyed. He went to the cemetery and shouted the worst curses he could imagine at the gravestones. When he returned, the Elder said, “Now go back and praise the tombs to the sky.” The young man again obeyed, feeling rather foolish.

When he returned the second time, the Elder asked, “Now tell me: when you yelled curses at the graves, what did they say?” “Nothing,” the young man replied, still not knowing where this was going. “And when you praised them, what was their response?” “Nothing, Abba. They were silent.” “If you would be saved,” the Elder said, “you must become like the gravestones, being moved neither by men’s curses nor their praise.”

In this story, the Elder was not suggesting that the young man become void of feeling, his heart as hard as a gravestone. He would certainly say that emotions are an integral part of who we are, and that to deny them is to deny our very humanity.

Rather, the Elder was exhorting his protégé to become free from enslavement to external forces. However good or bad something may feel, he is suggesting, you cannot allow that feeling to control how you respond. Having a feeling is perfectly natural and good; being controlled by that feeling is something else entirely.

It comes down to this: if someone behaves like a jerk and I feel like punching his lights out, do I act on it? Or do I heed the Psalmist’s advice: “Be angry, but sin not; commune with your own hearts on your beds, and be silent” (Ps. 4:4). When someone hurts me unjustly, do I react as my feelings would dictate, or do I follow Jesus and say, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:24).

The right choice seems clear. And yet our society would have us follow our feelings blindly, making choices according to our least whim and impulse. Advertisers count on precisely this kind of reaction when they bombard our senses with their sounds and images. Faced with such an onslaught, dispassion is the answer.

Indeed, I would go even further and say that acquiring dispassion is the most important and urgent challenge of the spiritual life. If we want to mediate true spiritual healing in this world of ours, each of us needs to seek freedom from those forces—biological, psychological, emotional, social, national, ideological and even religious—that would subject us to their wills and ultimately, pit us against one another.

When something comes into our orbit and threatens to throw off our equilibrium—whether towards the negative or the positive—we cannot allow it dictate our actions or reactions. Instead, we must offer everything—however bad or good it feels—to God, allowing Him and Him alone to measure our best response.

The above narrative was taken from: http://www.pravmir.com/more-on-dispassion/

In next week’s note I want to take this above story and explanation and apply it to the question I raised

last week. “So what can be done to help our children walk through this challenging mine field of polarity, especially in addressing the Covid 19 issue?”

Christ is risen! The Lord’s blessing be upon you!


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